Hoochies Need Love Too August 18, 2008
Posted by Babs O'Leary in Dating.trackback
When recounting a recent date, a coworker told me “I’m not going to work hard for something that everyone else got so easily.” I laughed when I heard this, but then I thought about it and realized he makes complete sense. Why would a guy jump through hoops when he knows the last walked around them? I think men like putting in the effort for a woman, but only the right one. If her past behaviors are suspect, he’s going to take a step back.
But most women aren’t hoochies forever. Most of them grow out of that phase after they’ve left college and are saddled down with a job and a nordie’s charge card. Don’t they deserve the extra effort? What if a girl runs into a guy she knew in college back when she is was a little hoochified. Now she is respectable, working at the local fortune 500, attending church regularly and, hell, even volunteering in her community. But the guy doesn’t see all that she has become. All he sees is what she was.
How does the reformed hoochie overcome her past? Move to another city? Stay away from alumni reunions? I know most of you will probably say the right guy won’t care about her past, but I don’t think it is unreasonable for a guy to be a little choosy when selecting a partner. Especially if she was known for being a one-woman pep squad for the football team.
Okay, readers and reformed hoochies, time to chime in! How does one overcome their past? Have you overcome yours? Do you know anyone that has successfully left their hoochiness behind them?
I just like saying hoochie.
Babs, we KNOW you wasn’t no collegetown Hoochie right?!?!?!?!?
If a guy just wants to “hit” then no he isn’t going to do much work when he knows the last guy got in there just because he let you upsize your value meal AND let you get a carmel sunday with nuts on top!!! That’s just like saying the last guy had more game then him, not gonna happen.
Its not unreasonable for a man(or a woman) to be a little choosy when selecting a partner. When a man is truly feeling/connecting with you he really can over look your Hoochie past…..as long as it don’t keep jumping up every time yall are in the grocery store, gas station, gym etc. I wouldn’t just jump up and volunteer any information that might lead him to believe that you have slept with half the east coast rappers or anything. Just let him believe you are a “natural”, in the back of his mind he knows you had been Olympic training for the 100 meter Hoochie dash.
I dated 1 or 2 girls that I know was buck wild early on in life, they never went into any detail and I never asked……We dated because they made me laugh and we had some great times and that’s what was important. Didn’t hurt that they were easy on the eyes either…… I think as people get out of their twenties it becomes less of a big issue…. I’m pretty sure I would have felt different about them in my early twenties!
Hellz no! Though I did have a couple of moments that I wouldn’t tell my daughter about, but hey it’s college.
Hoochies rarely amount to anything worthwhile when they reach that 40 year old mark. All they got to talk about is decade old stories of how some man they used to mess with had it going on.
At 40 the die is cast and for some men, it that time to get the big boy toys. And one of those big boy toys is a young hot thing.
It is always a fresh crop of 17-24 year old hoochies on the market each year. No one got time for an over the hill hoochie who got nothing to show for except a weave and tight jeans trying to pretend she still 27…
@Ed. I think you missed the whole point of the post. The woman is now a respectable lady with a hoochie past, not an over aged hoochie still trying to run game.
I think this post should be nominated for the awards
As a reformed “hoochie”, I think once u get pass ur 30’s and grow up, it doesn’t matter, as long as u are being productive and not holding on to “Hoochie” behavior.
My husband is actually my high school sweetheart, and we both had “Hoochie ways” which we outgrew and we are now very productive in Society.
P.S. We do get “Hoochified” together, which is totally acceptable.
Not only is it acceptable, it’s required!
Good topic…a friend of mine is a reformed hoochie. She was buck wild for a couple years in college, I’m talking just about every other weekend, she had a new guy in her bedroom and she even let a couple guys run the train *YIKES* But now she is very into church (she’s a church nurse, on the usher board, on several committees and she even teaches a Sunday school class!) She has been celibate for over a year and she plans to maintain her celibacy until she gets married…to the pastor of her church. Yes, she is actually dating the pastor of her church who is young and single and knows nothing of her hoochie past. So, I guess it can be done, let’s just hope the pastor never finds out!
Yowsa! Not the pastor. You know how I feel about those. He probably has as much as a hoochie past as her!
I think if you get married and have kids, you finally lose that label. I knew a girl in college who probably slept with the entire football team. Now, she’s married with 4 kids. I don’t even see her as a hoochie now. It’s like she’s a totally different person.