The first boy I ever loved friended me on Facebook. It’s funny because we never so much as held hands when I knew him, but I always considered him my first boyfriend. We spent all of our free time at school together and we would hang out watching BET videos at my house after school. I always wondered what he was up to. I wondered what college he went to. What city did he end up living in. Was he a successful doctor? Business owner? Techie guy? Perhaps a talented artist?
As it turns out it was none of those things. He’s not pumping gas or anything, but his job is less than desirable, somewhat dangerous and would fit late night MSNBC.
I’ve read some of his status updates or comments he’s made on my page and to be perfectly honest, he seems a bit obtuse.
But he is still really cute!
Seeing the grown man version of him is such a disappointment. And even though I thought about him often over the last 20+ years, I really kinda wish I never knew. It was nice having this little fantasy in my head and now it’s just reality. He’s the kind of dude I wouldn’t give the time of day to now.
On the flip side, he’s probably thinking the same thing about me. Perhaps he didn’t expect me to be 50 pounds heavier than I was in the 9th grade. Or he thought I’d be happily married instead of raising a child alone. Maybe he things my job is wack.
Have you ever reconnected with a love, relationship or friend from your youth only to be disappointed in the adult they have become?
No, not so far. Actually I have been pleasantly surprised. We are all a little greyer, a little heavier, but so far all are doing well. I thought that some of those cats would be spending their adult lives behind bars. And some of them probably thought the same thing about me! HA!
I bumped into my childhood crush in the supermarket. He was slicing the deli meat. End of story. lol
I ran into my HS crush a year or so after graduation and I guess “real world” experience finally opened my eyes. I realized upon him saying “hello” that he was gay. 0_0
I friended my HS crush/fling on FB about 4 or 5 months ago. Ugh….he is so much worse off that I ever imagined. He’s got a couple kids, no signs of a job, and boasts about his frequent endulgence in mary jane. And after he sent me a couple pathetic inbox messages I had to de-friend him. One such message was: “U never gave us a second chance, looked for me or nothin. damn. but i wish you da best pretty girl”
Yup. lol